And if you are intentionally seeking out an IRR, you could be contributing to racism by using your significant other as an object to exploit for your own purposes.
How ironic that the thing we do to show the world we aren’t racist actually ends up perpetuating racism.
– where affinity groups can be together without the presence of the oppressor – exist: so that tough conversations can be had with fewer guards up, so that you can communicate thousands of ideas in a single collective sigh, so that you can cry together with those who don’t just sympathize, but empathize.
And while it’s important to be willing to talk to your partner about race and to feel comfortable bringing it up, it’s just as important to be willing to step back and recognize when your whiteness is intrusive. I’ve been the “But I love you, and you love me, and why can’t you share this with me? Because it’s really difficult to watch your partner hurt and not be let in. Maybe it isn’t appropriate for your partner to take you home to meet their parents.
Race will continually be injected into their relationship because society will put a big red stamp on their foreheads that reads, “This is different.” We want to highlight the experiences of people in interracial relationships.